“In order to predict the future, you must create it.”

For many years, this has been the underlying mantra I’ve used to guide my life decisions.  Little did I know that when I began affirming such a phrase, I would literally find myself along a path of contemplating exactly what it was that I wanted from life, knowing that without fail, I would conquer whatever plans I set forth for myself.

I thought it a kitschy little thing.  Cute.  Empowering a little.

Yet, I don’t think I truly grasped the power behind it.  I knew that I would have to put my mind to whatever it was that I wanted, but I didn’t realize that I was actually going to be in charge of the things that happened– good and bad, I eventually figured out that it was MY responsibility!  Along with such a huge responsibility came a huge amount of anxiety…

Until I discovered that there really were no wrong decisions.

One of the hardest lessons I ever learned came to me while I was working at a place I lovingly nicknamed “The Job From Hell.” It was perhaps one of the most important lessons, also.  I had a boss teach me that a good manager wasn’t one who never made mistakes.  A good manager is one who makes mistakes, loud and clear, and then figures out how to fix them.   And that is precisely why _there are no wrong decisions_.  There aren’t.  There just can’t be, because even if the decision you’ve just made isn’t the right one, you still have the opportunity to figure out how to fix it.   And that automatically, by default, makes it a good decision.

After I picked up on this lesson, I found it entirely unnerving that I would consistently make decisions that I would have to fix, one way or another.   Serendipitously, it wasn’t too long after I discovered that there were no wrong decisions, that I figured out how to pay attention to my intuition before I make the decision.   Conveniently, we have an emotional guidance system that tells us whether we are making decisions in accordance to that which we desire.

If what we do feels bad (along any one of the places within the emotional spectrum), we know that where we’re going with that decision is likely not one we’re going to want to take responsibility for in the end.  And when we DO take responsibility, likely, we’re going to have to work hard to make things right.   However, if, upon making a decision, we feel good, there’s a probability that we ARE acting with intention.

Let your emotions tell you whether or not you are acting in your best interest.

1. You create your future.
2. There ARE NO wrong decisions.
3. Pay attention to your emotions, they will guide you.